We all have family that we care about. Family that we treasure and love beyond belief. I have one remaining Uncle at this point in life. When my Dad was initially diagnosed with a brain tumor in early 1996, I couldn’t go to Duke for the diagnosis. My Uncle went.
I felt so helpless. My Dad had always been there for me and now I couldn’t be there for him. I won’t go into the reasons, but there was just no way I could leave town and travel to Duke. My Uncle and Aunt went, they had time, or maybe they just made time, but they went.
I talked with my Uncle on the phone when they were at Duke and my Uncle said to me – “this is what families do”. That comment has been ingrained in my soul for the last 20 years. I have repeated this phrase to my two daughters time and again as we have sought to cling together in the tumultuous times together in these last 20 years.
I had four uncles 20 years ago. Three were brothers of my Dad, the other married one of my mother’s sisters. Two of my Dad’s brothers are gone now and tonight one of my daughters told me the one that was married to my mother’s sister was also gone. He died about a year ago.
He was a conflicted individual to say the least. My mother’s sister suffered from Alzheimer’s and Lord knows when she died. They had no children, only each other. I don’t want to go into the things that happened as my Mother’s oldest sister died, that’s done and in the past.
I just hope that the money that he got from my other aunt’s estate eased his journey into hell. She had written her will so that pretty much everything, including her house would go to her church. Well this SOB left her church standing at he altar, if you know what I mean.
As my Aunt was dying, her friends from childhood could not get in to see her and console her. She was held captive in her sister’s house by this asshole previously labeled as my Uncle. I told one of her closest friends from childhood that there would be a special place in hell for certain people and an express lane reserved for a special few.
The bastard has been gone now for over a year and his descendants have his money. They also have my other Aunts money, but they didn’t get my Mother’s money. That went to my two daughters. They are fine for now.
Twenty years later, my other Aunt’s church is fine. I hope that the bastard’s great-nephew has enjoyed the money and is fine. When he looks in the mirror and it has a wiggle in what he sees, I hope it gives him pause. His great-uncle was a great big ole pile of crap. Full Stop.